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In love, we want to have, we want to know the beloved.在爱情中,我们想要拥有,我们想要了解我们的爱人We want to minimize the distance. We want to contract that gap.我们想腻在一起,想跨越阻碍We want to neutralize the tensions. We want closeness.我们想调和不安的情绪,我们想亲密无间。But in desire, we tend to not really want to go back to the places weve aly gone.而在性欲方面,我们不想回到我们已经经历过的地方。Forgone conclusion does not keep our interest.过时的结论提不起我们的兴趣。In desire, we want an Other, somebody on the other side that we can go visit,在性欲方面,我们想找的是我们的另一半,一个在彼岸,一个我们想去探索的另一半。that we can go spend some time with,一个我们想呆在一起的另一半that we can go see what goes on in their red light district.和一个我们能探索其瘾秘的内心世界的另一半In desire, we want a bridge to cross.在性欲中,我们想找的是一座沟通的桥梁。Or in other words, I sometimes say, fire needs air.换言之,“一个巴掌拍不响啊”Desire needs space.性欲也需要空间。And when its said like that, its often quite abstract.这样说或许有点抽象吧。But then I took a question with me.带着一个问题And Ive gone to more than 20 countries in the last few years几年间我带着;Mating in Captivity; 这本书走访了20多个国家with ;Mating in Captivity,; and I asked people,每到一处,我都会问人们:when do you find yourself most drawn to your partner?;你什么时候最喜欢和爱人呆在一起?;Not attracted sexually, per se, but most drawn.我说的是呆在一起而不是一起性爱And across culture, across religion, and across gender --来自不同文化、不同地区、不同性别的人except for one -- there are a few answers that just keep coming back.除一个有点例外,其它人给我的回答不外如是So the first group is: I am most drawn to my partner第一组:最想和爱人在一起的时候when she is away, when we are apart, when we reunite.是爱人不在身边的时候、是分开的时候或是小别重逢时。Basically, when I get back in touch也就是,当我能用我的想象力with my ability to imagine myself with my partner,想像我和爱人在一起的时候,when my imagination comes back in the picture,当我的想像力能回到这方面来的时候,and when I can root it in absence and in longing,当爱人不在而我又想要的时候which is a major component of desire.这就是性欲的主要组成部分But then the second group is even more interesting:然而,另一组回答更有趣。I am most drawn to my partner我最想和爱人在一起的时候when I see him in the studio, when she is onstage,是当我看到他在录影棚工作、在舞台上表演的时候、when he is in his element, when shes doing something shes passionate about,当他在做正经事的时候、当他在做她感兴趣的事情的时候,when I see him at a party and other people are really drawn to him,当我看到他在party上谜倒一大堆人的时候when I see her hold court.当她开庭的时候。Basically, when I look at my partner radiant and confident,一般而言,当我看到我的爱人光芒四射而又自信的时候probably the biggest turn-on across the board.这就是最大的刺激物了。Radiant, as in self-sustaining.光芒四射,在自我维系中也如此。I look at this person -- by the way, in desire在欲望中,我看这个人people rarely talk about it, when we are blended into one,人们很少谈论这些, 当我们粘在一起的时候five centimeters from each other. I dont know in inches how much that is.也就是相隔5厘米左右的时候---说实在的我不知道是几厘米But its also not when the other person is that far apart但是,这种分别并不是说相隔太远that you no longer see them.以至于以后都不能相见。Its when Im looking at my partner from a comfortable distance,而是我能在一个比较合适的距离看着我爱的人where this person that is aly so familiar, so known,那个我熟悉和相知的,is momentarily once again somewhat mysterious, somewhat elusive.还带有点神秘,有点难以捉摸的人。And in this space between me and the other lies the erotic elan,我和爱人之间的距离成了一条性欲的纽带lies that movement toward the other.也造成了我们的相互走动Because sometimes, as Proust says,因为有时候,正如Proust说的那样mystery is not about traveling to new places,发现奥秘不一定要到一个新的地方去,but its about looking with new eyes.而只要我们有新视角就行。And so, when I see my partner on his own or her own,所以,当我们看到我们的另一半独自doing something in which they are enveloped,在忙自己的事的时候。I look at this person and I momentarily get a shift in perception,看着他我会对他有一种新的了解和认识,and I stay open to the mysteries that are living right next to me.而我对我身过的一些奥秘是常怀着关注之情的。And then, more importantly, in this description about the other更重要的是,对别人的了解or myself -- its the same -- what is most interesting或者对自己的了解, 都一样.is that there is no neediness in desire.最有趣的是,这不需要性欲。Nobody needs anybody.没有谁需要谁。There is no caretaking in desire.性欲不存在谁照顾谁的问题。Caretaking is mightily loving. Its a powerful anti-aphrodisiac.照顾是一种了不起的大爱,是一种强大的崔情药I have yet to see somebody who is so turned on我还看到一些人的性欲by somebody who needs them.是被那些需要他们的人唤起的Wanting them is one thing. Needing them is a shutdown,想要是一回事,但需要会令人性趣索然and women have known that forever,这点女人最清楚了,because anything that will bring up parenthood因为任何母性有关的东西will usually decrease the erotic charge.都会降低性欲。For good reasons, right?很有道理,是不是?And then the third group of answers usually would be第三类回答是:when Im surprised, when we laugh together,当我感到惊喜时,当我们一起大笑时会性趣大发,as somebody said to me in the office today,比如说,今天有人在我的办公室告诉我,when hes in his tux, so I said, you know,当他穿着无尾半正式晚礼时最有感觉了its either the tux or the cowboy boots.其实性欲与晚礼或牛仔靴无关But basically its when there is novelty.而是与猎奇有关。But novelty isnt about new positions. It isnt a repertoire of techniques.但新奇并不只意味着新的体位,也不是五花八门的性爱技巧Novelty is, what parts of you do you bring out?新奇是,你将自已的哪一面展现出来?What parts of you are just being seen?你的哪一面你的爱人熟悉?Because in some way one could say因为在某种程度上,我们会说sex isnt something you do, eh?性交并不专指性交活动,对吧?Sex is a place you go. Its a space you enter性交过程其实像你在去一个地方inside yourself and with another, or others.是一个进入自己或对方体内的过程。So where do you go in sex?因此,性交时何去何从?What parts of you do you connect to?你们身体的哪一部分有接触?What do you seek to express there?你们想在那里表达些什么?Is it a place for transcendence and spiritual union?那是一个表现性爱技巧和精神合一的地方吗?Is it a place for naughtiness and is it a place to be safely aggressive?那是一个俏皮掏蛋的地方呢还是一个略带点侵略性质的地方呢?Is it a place where you can finally surrender还是一个你最后放弃and not have to take responsibility for everything?不想负责任的地方呢?Is it a place where you can express your infantile wishes?它是不是一个你可以表达你孩子气的地方呢?What comes out there? Its a language.性爱到底是什么?其实性交是一种语言。It isnt just a behavior.不是一种行为。And its the poetic of that language that Im interested in,而我,正是对这一充满诗意的性交语言感兴趣which is why I began to explore this concept of erotic intelligence.这就是为什么我要探讨;性商;这一概念。You know, animals have sex.要知道,动物也性交。Its the pivot, its biology, its the natural instinct.而动物的性交是传宗接代的,是生物的,是一种自然的天性。201505/374261池州市石台妇幼保健院在哪里If you believe that every life has equal value, its revolting to learn that some lives are seen as worth saving and others are not. We said to ourselves: ;This cant be true. But if it is true, it deserves to be the priority of our giving.;如果你认为生命都是平等的,那么当你发现某些生命被挽救了,而另一些生命被放弃了,你会感到无法接受。我们对自己说:“事情不可能是如此。如果这是真的,那么它理应是我们努力的头等大事。”So we began our work in the same way anyone here would begin it. We asked: ;How could the world let these children die?;所以,我们俩用在座任何人都会想到的方式开始工作。我们心存疑问:“这个世界怎么可以眼睁睁看着这些孩子死去?”The answer is simple, and harsh. The market did not reward saving the lives of these children, and governments did not subsidize it. So the children died because their mothers and their fathers had no power in the market and no voice in the system.很简单,也很残酷。在市场,拯救儿童是一项没有利润的工作,政府也不会提供任何补助。这些儿童之所以会死亡,是因为他们的父母在经济上没有实力,在政治上没有发言权。But you and I have both.但是,你们和我在经济上有实力,在政治上有发言权。We can make market forces work better for the poor if we can develop a more creative capitalism-if we can stretch the reach of market forces so that more people can make a profit, or at least make a living, serving people who are suffering from the great inequities. We also can press governmetns around the world to spend taxpayer money in ways that better reflect the values of the people who pay the taxes.如果我们能够设计出一种更有创新性的资本主义制度——如果我们可以改变市场,让更多的人可以获得利润,或者至少可以维持生活 ——那么,这就可以帮到那些正在极端不平等的状况中受苦的人们;那么我们就可以让市场更好地为穷人务。我们还可以向全世界的政府施压,要求他们将纳税人的钱,花到更体现纳税人价值的地方。If we can find approaches that meet the needs of the poor in the ways that generate profits for business and votes for politicians, we will have found a sustainable way to reduce inequity in the world. This task is open-ended. It can never be finished. But a conscious effort to answer this challenge can change the world.如果我们能够找到这样一种方法,既可以帮到穷人,又可以为商人带来利润,为政治家带来选票,那么我们就找到了一种减少世界性不平等的可持续的发展道路。这个任务是永无止境的。它不可能全部完成,但是任何自觉地解决这个问题的尝试,都将会改变这个世界。201405/297667池州妇科医院池州费用I was one of the lucky ones, who got to shake his hand.我是和他握手的幸运者之一。Carter saw Baldwin County on my name tag that day and stopped to speak with me.卡特看见在我的名字标签上写着鲍德温县,于是停下来和我说话。He wanted to know how people were doing after the rash of storms that struck Alabama that year.他想知道人们在阿拉巴马州的风暴袭击后怎样了。Carter was kind and compassionate; he held the most powerful job in the world but he had not sacrificed any of his humanity.卡特善良,有同情心,他拥有世界上最有权势的工作,但他具有人道主义精神。I felt proud that he was president. And I felt proud that he was from the South.我为他是总统而感到自豪。更为他来自南方而感到自豪。In the space of a week, I had come face to face with two men who guaranteed themselves a place in history.在一个星期内,我已经与两个在历史上有着举足轻重地位的人打了照面。They came from the same region. They were from the same political party.他们来自同一个地区。他们来自同一个政党。They were both governors of adjoining states. But they looked at the world in very different ways.他们都是毗邻州的州长。但是他们用非常不同的方式看世界。It was clear to me, that one was right, and one was wrong.我很清楚,哪一个是正确的,哪一个是错误的。Wallace had built his political career by exploiting divisions between us.华莱士通过制造我们之间的分歧来建造他的政治生涯。Carters message on the other hand, was that we are all bound together, every one of us.另一方面,卡特主张是人们都是联系在一起的,包括我们中的每一个人。Each had made a journey that led them to the values that they lived by, but it wasnt just about their experiences or their circumstances, it had to come from within.每一个人都进行了一次旅程,引导他们找到他们生活的价值,但它不仅仅源自于他们的经历或生存环境,它必须来自内部。My own journey in life was just beginning. I hadnt even applied for college yet at that point.在生活中,我自己的旅程才刚刚开始。在那时我还没申请大学。For you graduates, the process of discovering yourself, of inventing yourself, of reinventing yourself is about to begin in earnest.对于你们毕业生而言,发现自己,开发自己,改造自己的进程正急不可待。Its about finding your values and committing to live by them.它关乎于找到你生活的价值观并去奉行。You have to find your North Star. And that means choices. Some are easy. Some are hard. And some will make you question everything.你必须找到你的北极星。这意味着选择。有些容易。有些困难。有些会让你质疑一切。Twenty years after my visit to Washington, I met someone who made me question everything.我访问华盛顿的20年后,我遇到了一位让我质疑一切的人。201512/414803We face the arduous days that lie before us in the warm courage of national unity, in the clearest consciousness of seeking all and precious moral values, with the clean satisfaction that comes from the stern performance of duty by old and young alike, we aim at the assurance of a rounded, a permanent national life.让我们正视面前的严峻岁月,怀着举国一致给我们带来的热情和勇气,怀着寻求传统的、珍贵的道德观念的明确意识,怀着老老少少都能通过克尽职守而得到的问心无愧的满足。我们的目标是要保国民生活的圆满和长治久安。We do not distrust the future of essential democracy. The people of the ed States have not failed. In their need, they have registered a mandate that they want direct, vigorous action. They have asked for discipline, and direction under leadership, they have made me the present instrument of their wishes. In the spirit of the gift, I take it.我们并不怀疑基本民主制度的未来。合众国人民并没有失败。他们在困难中表达了自己的委托,即要求采取直接而有力的行动。他们要求有领导的纪律和方向。他们现在选择了我作为实现他们的愿望的工具。我接受这份厚赠。In this dedication, in this dedication of a nation, we humbly ask the blessings of God, may He protect each and every one of us, may He guide me in the days to come.在此举国奉献之际,我们谦卑地请求上帝赐福。愿上帝保信我们大家和每一个人,愿上帝在未来的日子里指引我。 /201305/240227东至县第二人民医院妇科价位表

安徽省池州市东流人民医院打胎有风险么池州青阳县泌尿系统在线咨询Look, I had second thoughts, really,说实话,我犹豫过about whether I could talk about this到底应不应该to such a vital and alive audience as you guys.对你们一群如此有活力的观众讲这个题目。Then I remembered the e from Gloria Steinem,但我又想起了Gloria Steinem的一句话which goes,她是这样说的;The truth will set you free,“真相会给你自由,but first it will piss you off.;但它会先令你难受”So...所以呢……So with that in mind, Im going to set about所以谨记着这一点,我要开始trying to do those things here,试图来谈谈这些事and talk about dying in the 21st century.聊一聊21世纪的死亡。Now the first thing that will piss you off, undoubtedly,首先,第一件会令你们十分不爽的,毫无疑问的,is that all of us are, in fact, going to die就是我们所有人,事实上,都将在in the 21st century.21世纪死去。There will be no exceptions to that.这不会有例外吧!There are, apparently, about one in eight of you可是根据调查,我们当中每8个人就会有1个who think youre immortal, on surveys, but --觉得自己可以长生不老,但是……Unfortunately, that isnt going to happen.不幸的是,长生不老是不可能的。While I give this talk, in the next 10 minutes,在接下来的这10分钟内,就在我做这个演讲的同时,a hundred million of my cells will die,我身体里的一亿个细胞将死去,and over the course of today, 2,000 of my brain cells今天,我的2000个脑细胞会死去will die and never come back,而且永远不会回来。so you could argue that the dying process所以可以说,死亡的过程starts pretty early in the piece.其实在这类的日常小事中就开始了。Anyway, the second thing I want to say about dying in the无论如何,我想说的关于死在21世纪的第二件事是,21st century, apart from its going to happen to everybody,除了这件事会发生在每个人的身上以外,is its shaping up to be a bit of a train wreck它对大部分人来说,就是一列好好的火车for most of us,最终是怎么走向撞车和成为一个残骸的过程。unless we do something to try and reclaim this process除非我们做点什么,把这列火车from the rather inexorable trajectory that its currently on.从它现在正向着的死亡方面前进的轨道上拉回来。So there you go. Thats the truth.这就是我要告诉你的真相。No doubt that will piss you off, and now lets see毫无疑问,这会让你非常不爽,但现在我们来看看whether we can set you free. I dont promise anything.可不可以让你获得自由并重生。但我不能向你保什么。Now, as you heard in the intro, I work in intensive care,正如你们在介绍中听到的一样,我在ICU (重症监护治疗病房)工作,and I think Ive kind of lived through the heyday而且我想我经历过ICU的黄金时期。of intensive care. Its been a ride, man.那就像坐过山车一样,This has been fantastic.那真的一直都很棒。We have machines that go ping.我们有很先进的设备。Theres many of them up there.这照片上就有很多啊。And we have some wizard technology which I think我们有一些魔术般的技术,has worked really well, and over the course of the time我觉得一直以来都很好用。Ive worked in intensive care, the death rate在我在ICU工作的时间里,for males in Australia has halved,澳大利亚的男性死亡率减少了一半,and intensive care has had something to do with that.这跟ICU特护是有关系的。Certainly, a lot of the technologies that we use当然,这跟我们采用的许多技术have got something to do with that.也有很大的关系。So we have had tremendous success, and we kind of所以我们取得过巨大的成功,got caught up in our own success quite a bit,而我们有点被自己的成功冲昏了头脑,and we started using expressions like ;lifesaving.;所以,我们开始用一些像是“挽救生命”之类的词形容自己I really apologize to everybody for doing that,为此我真的要对所有人表示歉意,because obviously, we dont.因为,很明显,我们并不能救命。What we do is prolong peoples lives,我们能做的是延长人们的生命,and delay death,让死亡迟一点到来,and redirect death, but we cant, strictly speaking,让死亡的过程改变一点点,但是严格来说,save lives on any sort of permanent basis.从任何永久性的角度看,我们并不能拯救病人的生命。And whats really happened over the period of time而从我在ICU这些年的工作经验来看,that Ive been working in intensive care is that事实的真相是,the people whose lives we started saving back in the 70s,我们在70年代,80年代,80s, and 90s, are now coming to die in the 21st century90年代所救过来的人,现在慢慢开始在21世纪逝去of diseases that we no longer have the answers to死于我们当时没法治愈in quite the way we did then.现在也一样没法的治愈的疾病。So whats happening now is theres been a big shift而最大的不同点是,in the way that people die,人们死亡的方式发生了巨大的转变。and most of what theyre dying of now isnt as amenable而大部分让人们致死的疾病to what we can do as what it used to be like已经和我们当年when I was doing this in the 80s and 90s.在80年代、90年代处理的方法有了很大的不同了。So we kind of got a bit caught up with this,所以我们也有点困惑and we havent really squared with you guys about而我们也没有机会和大家分享一下whats really happening now, and its about time we did.如今ICU里都在发生什么。现在就让我们来看一下。I kind of woke up to this bit in the late 90s我是在90年代后期才思考这个问题的,when I met this guy.当时我遇到了这个人。This guy is called Jim, Jim Smith, and he looked like this.他叫做Jim Smith,他当时的样子是这样的。201507/387323在池州做包皮手术需要多少钱President Faust, members of the Harvard Corporation and the Board of Overseers,members of the faculty, proud parents, and, above all, graduates,福斯特主席,哈佛公司和监察委员会的各位成员,各位老师、家长、全体毕业生们:The first thing I would like to say is ;thank you.; Not only has Harvard given me an extraordinary honour, but the weeks of fear and nausea I’ve endured at the thought of giving this commencement address have made me lose weight. A win-win situation! Now all I have to do is take deep breaths, squint at the red banners and convince myself that I am at the world’s largest Gryffindors reunion.首先请允许我说一声谢谢。哈佛不仅给了我无上的荣誉,连日来为这个演讲经受的恐惧和紧张,更令我减肥成功。这真是一个双赢的局面。现在我要做的就是深呼吸几下,眯着眼睛看看前面的大红横幅,安慰自己正在世界上最大的格兰芬多(提示:以防有人没看过《哈利波特》……格兰芬多是小哈利所在的魔法学院的名字)聚会上。Delivering a commencement address is a great responsibility; or so I thought until I cast my mind back to my own graduation. The commencement speaker that day was the distinguished British philosopher Baroness Mary Warnock. Reflecting on her speech has helped me enormously in writing this one, because it turns out that I cant remember a single word she said. This liberating discovery enables me to proceed without any fear that I might inadvertently influence you to abandon promising careers in business, law or politics for the giddy delights of becoming a gay wizard.发表毕业演说是一个巨大的责任,至少在我回忆自己当年的毕业典礼前是这么认为的。那天做演讲的是英国著名的哲学家 Baroness Mary Warnock,对她演讲的回忆,对我写今天的演讲稿,产生了极大的帮助,因为我不记得她说过的任何一句话了。这个发现让我释然,让我不再担心我可能会无意中影响你放弃在商业,法律或政治上的大好前途,转而醉心于成为一个快乐的魔法师(gay有快乐和同性恋的意思)。You see? If all you remember in years to come is the gay wizard joke, Ive still come out ahead of Baroness Mary Warnock. Achievable goals - the first step to self-improvement.你们看,如果在若干年后你们还记得“快乐的魔法师”这个笑话,那就明我已经超越了Baroness Mary Warnock。建立可实现的目标——这是提高自我的第一步。Actually, I have wracked my mind and heart for what I ought to say to you today. I have asked myself what I wish I had known at my own graduation, and what important lessons I have learned in the 21 years that has expired between that day and this.实际上,我为今天应该和大家谈些什么绞尽了脑汁。我问自己什么是我希望早在毕业典礼上就该了解的,而从那时起到现在的 21年间,我又得到了什么重要的启示。I have come up with two answers. On this wonderful day when we are gathered together to celebrate your academic success, I have decided to talk to you about the benefits of failure. And as you stand on the threshold of what is sometimes called real life, I want to extol the crucial importance of imagination.我想到了两个。在这美好的一天,当我们一起庆祝你们取得学业成就的时刻,我希望告诉你们失败有什么样的益处;在你们即将迈向“现实生活”的道路之际,我还要褒扬想象力的重要性。These may seem quixotic or paradoxical choices, but bear with me.这些似乎是不切实际或自相矛盾的选择,但请先容我讲完。Looking back at the 21-year-old that I was at graduation, is a slightly uncomfortable experience for the 42-year-old that she has become. Half my lifetime ago, I was striking an uneasy balance between the ambition I had for myself, and what those closest to me expected of me.回顾21岁刚刚毕业时的自己,对于今天42岁的我来说,是一个稍微不太舒的经历。可以说,我人生的前一部分,一直挣扎在自己的雄心和身边的人对我的期望之间。I was convinced that the only thing I wanted to do, ever, was to write novels. However, my parents, both of whom came from impoverished backgrounds and neither of whom had been to college, took the view that my overactive imagination was an amusing personal quirk that could never pay a mortgage, or secure a pension.我一直深信,自己唯一想做的事情,就是写小说。不过,我的父母,他们都来自贫穷的背景,没有任何一人上过大学,坚持认为我过度的想象力是一个令人惊讶的个人怪癖,根本不足以让我付按揭,或者取得足够的养老金。I know the irony strikes like with the force of a cartoon anvil now, but…我现在明白反讽就像用卡通铁砧去打击你,但...They had hoped that I would take a vocational degree; I wanted to study English Literature. A compromise was reached that in retrospect satisfied nobody, and I went up to study Modern Languages. Hardly had my parents car rounded the corner at the end of the road than I ditched German and scuttled off down the Classics corridor.他们希望我去拿个职业学位,而我想去攻读英国文学。最后,达成了一个双方都不甚满意的妥协:我改学现代语言。可是等到父母一走开,我立刻放弃了德语而报名学习古典文学。I cannot remember telling my parents that I was studying Classics; they might well have found out for the first time on graduation day. Of all the subjects on this planet, I think they would have been hard put to name one less useful than Greek mythology when it came to securing the keys to an executive bathroom.我不记得将这事告诉了父母,他们可能是在我毕业典礼那一天才发现的。我想,在全世界的所有专业中,他们也许认为,不会有比研究希腊神话更没用的专业了,根本无法换来一间独立宽敞的卫生间。I would like to make it clear, in parenthesis, that I do not blame my parents for their point of view. There is an expiry date on blaming your parents for steering you in the wrong direction; the moment you are old enough to take the wheel, responsibility lies with you. What is more, I cannot criticise my parents for hoping that I would never experience poverty. They had been poor themselves, and I have since been poor, and I quite agree with them that it is not an ennobling experience. Poverty entails fear, and stress, and sometimes depression; it means a thousand petty humiliations and hardships. Climbing out of poverty by your own efforts, that is indeed something on which to pride yourself, but poverty itself is romanticised only by fools.我想澄清一下:我不会因为父母的观点,而责怪他们。埋怨父母给你指错方向是有一个时间段的。当你成长到可以控制自我方向的时候,你就要自己承担责任了。尤其是,我不会因为父母希望我不要过穷日子,而责怪他们。他们一直很贫穷,我后来也一度很穷,所以我很理解他们。贫穷并不是一种高贵的经历,它带来恐惧、压力、有时还有绝望,它意味着许许多多的羞辱和艰辛。靠自己的努力摆脱贫穷,确实可以引以自豪,但贫穷本身只有对傻瓜而言才是浪漫的。What I feared most for myself at your age was not poverty, but failure.我在你们这个年龄,最害怕的不是贫穷,而是失败。At your age, in spite of a distinct lack of motivation at university, where I had spent far too long in the coffee bar writing stories, and far too little time at lectures, I had a knack for passing examinations, and that, for years, had been the measure of success in my life and that of my peers.我在您们这么大时,明显缺乏在大学学习的动力,我花了太久时间在咖啡吧写故事,而在课堂的时间却很少。我有一个通过考试的诀窍,并且数年间一直让我在大学生活和同龄人中不落人后。I am not dull enough to suppose that because you are young, gifted and well-educated, you have never known hardship or heartache. Talent and intelligence never yet inoculated anyone against the caprice of the Fates, and I do not for a moment suppose that everyone here has enjoyed an existence of unruffled privilege and contentment.我不想愚蠢地假设,因为你们年轻、有天份,并且受过良好的教育,就从来没有遇到困难或心碎的时刻。拥有才华和智慧,从来不会使人对命运的反复无常有所准备;我也不会假设大家坐在这里冷静地满足于自身的优越感。However, the fact that you are graduating from Harvard suggests that you are not very well-acquainted with failure. You might be driven by a fear of failure quite as much as a desire for success. Indeed, your conception of failure might not be too far from the average persons idea of success, so high have you aly flown academically.相反,你们是哈佛毕业生的这个事实,意味着你们并不很了解失败。你们也许极其渴望成功,所以非常害怕失败。说实话,你们眼中的失败,很可能就是普通人眼中的成功,毕竟你们在学业上已经达到很高的高度了。Ultimately, we all have to decide for ourselves what constitutes failure, but the world is quite eager to give you a set of criteria if you let it. So I think it fair to say that by any conventional measure, a mere seven years after my graduation day, I had failed on an epic scale. An exceptionally short-lived marriage had imploded, and I was jobless, a lone parent, and as poor as it is possible to be in modern Britain, without being homeless. The fears my parents had had for me, and that I had had for myself, had both come to pass, and by every usual standard, I was the biggest failure I knew.最终,我们所有人都必须自己决定什么算作失败,但如果你愿意,世界是相当渴望给你一套标准的。所以我想很公平的讲,从任何传统的标准看,在我毕业仅仅七年后的日子里,我的失败达到了史诗般空前的规模:短命的婚姻闪电般地破裂,我又失业成了一个艰难的单身母亲。除了流浪汉,我是当代英国最穷的人之一,真的一无所有。当年父母和我自己对未来的担忧,现在都变成了现实。按照惯常的标准来看,我也是我所知道的最失败的人。Now, I am not going to stand here and tell you that failure is fun. That period of my life was a dark one, and I had no idea that there was going to be what the press has since represented as a kind of fairy tale resolution. I had no idea how far the tunnel extended, and for a long time, any light at the end of it was a hope rather than a reality.现在,我不打算站在这里告诉你们,失败是有趣的。那段日子是我生命中的黑暗岁月,我不知道它是否代表童话故事里需要历经的磨难,更不知道自己还要在黑暗中走多久。很长一段时间里,前面留给我的只是希望,而不是现实。So why do I talk about the benefits of failure? Simply because failure meant a stripping away of the inessential. I stopped pretending to myself that I was anything other than what I was, and began to direct all my energy into finishing the only work that mattered to me. Had I really succeeded at anything else, I might never have found the determination to succeed in the one arena I believed I truly belonged. I was set free, because my greatest fear had been realised, and I was still alive, and I still had a daughter whom I adored, and I had an old typewriter and a big idea. And so rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.那么为什么我要谈论失败的好处呢?因为失败意味着剥离掉那些不必要的东西。我因此不再伪装自己、远离自我,而重新开始把所有精力放在对我最重要的事情上。如果不是没有在其他领域成功过,我可能就不会找到,在一个我确信真正属于的舞台上取得成功的决心。我获得了自由,因为最害怕的虽然已经发生了,但我还活着,我仍然有一个我深爱的女儿,我还有一个旧打字机和一个很大的想法。所以困境的谷底,成为我重建生活的坚实基础。You might never fail on the scale I did, but some failure in life is inevitable. It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.你们可能永远没有达到我经历的那种失败程度,但有些失败,在生活中是不可避免的。生活不可能没有一点失败,除非你生活的万般小心,而那也意味着你没有真正在生活了。无论怎样,有些失败还是注定地要发生。Failure gave me an inner security that I had never attained by passing examinations. Failure taught me things about myself that I could have learned no other way. I discovered that I had a strong will, and more discipline than I had suspected; I also found out that I had friends whose value was truly above the price of rubies.失败使我的内心产生一种安全感,这是我从考试中没有得到过的。失败让我看清自己,这也是我通过其他方式无法体会的。我发现,我比自己认为的,要有更强的意志和决心。我还发现,我拥有比宝石更加珍贵的朋友。The knowledge that you have emerged wiser and stronger from setbacks means that you are, ever after, secure in your ability to survive. You will never truly know yourself, or the strength of your relationships, until both have been tested by adversity. Such knowledge is a true gift, for all that it is painfully won, and it has been worth more to me than any qualification I ever earned.从挫折中获得智慧、变得坚强,意味着你比以往任何时候都更有能力生存。只有在逆境来临的时候,你才会真正认识你自己,了解身边的人。这种了解是真正的财富,虽然是用痛苦换来的,但比我以前得到的任何资格书都有用。So given a Time Turner, I would tell my 21-year-old self that personal happiness lies in knowing that life is not a check-list of acquisition or achievement. Your qualifications, your CV, are not your life, though you will meet many people of my age and older who confuse the two. Life is difficult, and complicated, and beyond anyones total control, and the humility to know that will enable you to survive its vicissitudes.如果给我一部时间机器,我会告诉21岁的自己,人的幸福在于知道生活不是一份漂亮的成绩单,你的资历、简历,都不是你的生活,虽然你会碰到很多与我同龄或更老一点的人今天依然还在混淆两者。生活是艰辛的,复杂的,超出任何人的控制能力,而谦恭地了解这一点,将使你历经沧桑后能够更好的生存。You might think that I chose my second theme, the importance of imagination, because of the part it played in rebuilding my life, but that is not wholly so. Though I will defend the value of bedtime stories to my last gasp, I have learned to value imagination in a much broader sense. Imagination is not only the uniquely human capacity to envision that which is not, and therefore the fount of all invention and innovation. In its arguably most transformative and revelatory capacity, it is the power that enables us to empathise with humans whose experiences we have never shared.对于第二个主题的选择——想象力的重要性——你们可能会认为是因为它对我重建生活起到了帮助,但事实并非完全如此。虽然我愿誓死捍卫睡前要给孩子讲故事的价值观,我对想象力的理解已经有了更广泛的含义。想象力不仅仅是人类设想还不存在的事物这种独特的能力,为所有发明和创新提供源泉,它还是人类改造和揭露现实的能力,使我们同情自己不曾经受的他人苦难。One of the greatest formative experiences of my life preceded Harry Potter, though it informed much of what I subsequently wrote in those books. This revelation came in the form of one of my earliest day jobs. Though I was sloping off to write stories during my lunch hours, I paid the rent in my early 20s by working at the African research department at Amnesty Internationals headquarters in London.其中一个影响最大的经历发生在我写哈利波特之前,为我随后写书提供了很多想法。这些想法成形于我早期的工作经历,在20 多岁时,尽管我可以在午餐时间里悄悄写故事,可为了付房租,我做的主要工作是在伦敦总部的大赦国际研究部门。There in my little office I hastily scribbled letters smuggled out of totalitarian regimes by men and women who were risking imprisonment to inform the outside world of what was happening to them. I saw photographs of those who had disappeared without trace, sent to Amnesty by their desperate families and friends. I the testimony of torture victims and saw pictures of their injuries. I opened handwritten, eye-witness accounts of summary trials and executions, of kidnappings and rapes.在我的小办公室,我看到了人们匆匆写的信件,它们是从极权主义政权被偷送出来的。那些人冒着被监禁的危险,告知外面的世界他们那里正在发生的事情。我看到了那些无迹可寻的人的照片,它们是被那些绝望的家人和朋友送来的。我看过拷问受害者的词和被害的照片。我打开过手写的目击词,描述绑架和强奸犯的审判和处决。Many of my co-workers were ex-political prisoners, people who had been displaced from their homes, or fled into exile, because they had the temerity to think independently of their government. Visitors to our office included those who had come to give information, or to try and find out what had happened to those who they had left behind.我有很多的同事是前政治犯,他们已离开家园流离失所,或逃亡流放,因为他们敢于怀疑政府、独立思考。来我们办公室的访客,包括那些前来提供信息,或想设法知道那些被迫留下的同志发生了什么事的人。I shall never forget the African torture victim, a young man no older than I was at the time, who had become mentally ill after all he had endured in his homeland. He trembled uncontrollably as he spoke into a camera about the brutality inflicted upon him. He was a foot taller than I was, and seemed as fragile as a child. I was given the job of escorting him to the Underground Station afterwards, and this man whose life had been shattered by cruelty took my hand with exquisite courtesy, and wished me future happiness.我将永远不会忘记一个非洲酷刑的受害者,一名当时还没有我大的年轻男子,他因在故乡的经历而精神错乱。在摄像机前讲述被残暴地摧残的时候,他颤抖失控。他比我高一英尺,却看上去像一个脆弱的儿童。我被安排随后护送他到地铁站,这名生活已被残酷地打乱的男子,小心翼翼地握着我的手,祝我未来生活幸福。And as long as I live I shall remember walking along an empty corridor and suddenly hearing, from behind a closed door, a scream of pain and horror such as I have never heard since. The door opened, and the researcher poked out her head and told me to run and make a hot drink for the young man sitting with her. She had just given him the news that in retaliation for his own outspokenness against his countrys regime, his mother had been seized and executed.只要我活着,我还会记得,在一个空荡荡的的走廊,突然从背后的门里,传来我从未听过的痛苦和恐惧的尖叫。门打开了,调查员探出头请求我,为坐在她旁边的青年男子,调一杯热饮料。她刚刚给他的消息是,为了报复他对国家政权的批评,他的母亲已经被捕并执行了决。Every day of my working week in my early 20s I was reminded how incredibly fortunate I was, to live in a country with a democratically elected government, where legal representation and a public trial were the rights of everyone.在我20多岁的那段日子,每一天的工作,都在提醒我自己是多么幸运。生活在一个民选政府的国家,依法申述与公开审理,是所有人的权利。Every day, I saw more evidence about the evils humankind will inflict on their fellow humans, to gain or maintain power. I began to have nightmares, literal nightmares, about some of the things I saw, heard and .每一天,我都能看到更多有关恶人的据,他们为了获得或维持权力,对自己的同胞犯下暴行。我开始做噩梦,真正意义上的噩梦,全都和我所见所闻有关。And yet I also learned more about human goodness at Amnesty International than I had ever known before.同时在这里我也了解到更多关于人类的善良,比我以前想象的要多很多。Amnesty mobilises thousands of people who have never been tortured or imprisoned for their beliefs to act on behalf of those who have. The power of human empathy, leading to collective action, saves lives, and frees prisoners. Ordinary people, whose personal well-being and security are assured, join together in huge numbers to save people they do not know, and will never meet. My small participation in that process was one of the most humbling and inspiring experiences of my life.大赦动员成千上万没有因为个人信仰而受到折磨或监禁的人,去为那些遭受这种不幸的人奔走。人类同理心的力量,引发集体行动,拯救生命,解放囚犯。个人的福祉和安全有保的普通百姓,携手合作,大量挽救那些他们素不相识,也许永远不会见面的人。我用自己微薄的力量参与了这一过程,也获得了更大的启发。Unlike any other creature on this planet, human beings can learn and understand, without having experienced. They can think themselves into other peoples places.不同于在这个星球上任何其他的动物,人类可以学习和理解未曾经历过的东西。他们可以将心比心、设身处地的理解他人。Of course, this is a power, like my brand of fictional magic, that is morally neutral. One might use such an ability to manipulate, or control, just as much as to understand or sympathise.当然,这种能力,就像在我虚构的魔法世界里一样,在道德上是中立的。一个人可能会利用这种能力去操纵控制,也有人选择去了解同情。And many prefer not to exercise their imaginations at all. They choose to remain comfortably within the bounds of their own experience, never troubling to wonder how it would feel to have been born other than they are. They can refuse to hear screams or to peer inside cages; they can close their minds and hearts to any suffering that does not touch them personally; they can refuse to know.而很多人选择不去使用他们的想象力。他们选择留在自己舒适的世界里,从来不愿花力气去想想如果生在别处会怎样。他们可以拒绝去听别人的尖叫,看一眼囚禁的笼子;他们可以封闭自己的内心,只要痛苦不触及个人,他们可以拒绝去了解。I might be tempted to envy people who can live that way, except that I do not think they have any fewer nightmares than I do. Choosing to live in narrow spaces can lead to a form of mental agoraphobia, and that brings its own terrors. I think the wilfully unimaginative see more monsters. They are often more afraid.我可能会受到诱惑,去嫉妒那样生活的人。但我不认为他们做的噩梦会比我更少。选择生活在狭窄的空间,可以导致不敢面对开阔的视野,给自己带来恐惧感。我认为不愿展开想像的人会看到更多的怪兽,他们往往更感到更害怕。What is more, those who choose not to empathise may enable real monsters. For without ever committing an act of outright evil ourselves, we collude with it, through our own apathy.更甚的是,那些选择不去同情的人,可能会激活真正的怪兽。因为尽管自己没有犯下罪恶,我们却通过冷漠与之勾结。One of the many things I learned at the end of that Classics corridor down which I ventured at the age of 18, in search of something I could not then define, was this, written by the Greek author Plutarch: What we achieve inwardly will change outer reality.我18岁开始从古典文学中汲取许多知识,其中之一当时并不完全理解,那就是希腊作家普鲁塔克所说:我们内心获得的,将改变外在的现实。That is an astonishing statement and yet proven a thousand times every day of our lives. It expresses, in part, our inescapable connection with the outside world, the fact that we touch other peoples lives simply by existing.那是一个惊人的论断,在我们生活的每一天里被无数次实。它指明我们与外部世界有无法脱离的联系,我们以自身的存在接触着他人的生命。But how much more are you, Harvard graduates of 2008, likely to touch other peoples lives? Your intelligence, your capacity for hard work, the education you have earned and received, give you unique status, and unique responsibilities. Even your nationality sets you apart. The great majority of you belong to the worlds only remaining superpower. The way you vote, the way you live, the way you protest, the pressure you bring to bear on your government, has an impact way beyond your borders. That is your privilege, and your burden.但是,哈佛大学的2008届毕业生们,你们多少人有可能去触及他人的生命?你们的智慧,你们努力工作的能力,以及你们所受到的教育,给予你们独特的地位和责任。甚至你们的国籍也让你们与众不同,你们绝大部份人属于这个世界上唯一的超级大国。你们表决的方式,你们生活的方式,你们抗议的方式,你们给政府带来的压力,具有超乎寻常的影响力。这是你们的特权,也是你们的责任。If you choose to use your status and influence to raise your voice on behalf of those who have no voice; if you choose to identify not only with the powerful, but with the powerless; if you retain the ability to imagine yourself into the lives of those who do not have your advantages, then it will not only be your proud families who celebrate your existence, but thousands and millions of people whose reality you have helped to change. We do not need magic to transform the world, we carry all the power we need inside ourselves aly: we have the power to imagine better.如果你选择利用自己的地位和影响,去为那些没有发言权的人发出声音;如果你选择不仅与强者为伍,还会同情帮扶弱者;如果你会设身处地为不如你的人着想,那么你的存在,将不仅是你家人的骄傲,更是无数因为你的帮助而改变命运的成千上万人的骄傲。我们不需要改变世界的魔法,我们自己的内心就有这种力量:那就是我们一直在梦想,让这个世界变得更美好。I am nearly finished. I have one last hope for you, which is something that I aly had at 21. The friends with whom I sat on graduation day have been my friends for life. They are my childrens godparents, the people to whom Ive been able to turn in times of real trouble, people who have been kind enough not to sue me when Ive used their names for Death Eaters. At our graduation we were bound by enormous affection, by our shared experience of a time that could never come again, and, of course, by the knowledge that we held certain photographic evidence that would be exceptionally valuable if any of us ran for Prime Minister.我的演讲要接近尾声了。对你们,我有最后一个希望,也是我21岁时就有的。毕业那天坐在我身边的朋友现在是我终身的挚交,他们是我孩子的教父母,是在我遇到麻烦时愿意伸出援手,在我用他们的名字给哈利波特中的 “食死徒”起名而不会起诉我的朋友。我们在毕业典礼时坐在了一起,因为我们关系亲密,拥有共同的永远无法再来的经历,当然,也因为假想要是我们中的任何人竞选首相,那照片将是极为宝贵的关系明。So today, I can wish you nothing better than similar friendships. And tomorrow, I hope that even if you remember not a single word of mine, you remember those of Seneca, another of those old Romans I met when I fled down the Classics corridor, in retreat from career ladders, in search of ancient wisdom:所以今天我可以给你们的,没有比拥有知己更好的祝福了。明天,我希望即使你们不记得我说的任何一个字,你们还能记得哲学家塞内加的一句至理明言。我当年没有顺着事业的阶梯向上攀爬,转而与他在古典文学的殿堂相遇,他的古老智慧给了我人生的启迪:As is a tale, so is life: not how long it is, but how good it is, is what matters.生活就像故事一样:不在乎长短,而在于质量,这才是最重要的。I wish you all very good lives.我祝愿你们都有美好的生活。Thank you very much.非常感谢大家。201308/252223安徽池州市人流哪家医院好的

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