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You walk past them one day and they smile at you and suddenly you are walking the same way every day, just to see that smile again. They slowly approach moving closer to you and giving you a little more insight each day about who they are. They have an air of confidence but a shy demeanor. Finally they say hi and you practically drop to your knees with excitement.This is how a manipulator starts. They usually come into your lives slowly as they you and figure out your body language, likes and dislikes and even your wardrobe. I was told once that the wisest person in the room was the one who wasn't saying anything, they were listening to everything that was going on. I realized when I became that quiet person, it wasn't just the listening that they were doing. We study you and capture every moment until you become the target. We follow and know every move you make. Then we move in for the kill, get what we want and leave.So how do you know who we are? Here is a not-so-simple list of things that you can watch for. 1. Attitude Not so simple to see if you are aly hooked, but you can spot it in people. Most of the time you know when people are giving you attitude but that is not what I am talking about. I am talking about how they carry themselves and it isn't an attitude that makes you step back and decide to get defensive. They have perfected what they need to send off as their attitude to make you think you should approach them or allow them to approach you. If you look closely though there is a fine line between who they really are and who they have perfected for you. Trust your first instinct because your subconscious mind may be seeing more than you do. Keep your guard up and watch for theirs to fall occasionally. 2.Too Good To Be True Like everyone says, amp;;if it's too good to be true.amp;; They are right. If they have too much in common with you be very leery, they have probably studied enough to know about things you may like and can bullshit their way through it. We, I mean they, are really good at that. The perfect sales people. Some of them can you in a split second. 3.Saving the World If someone swoops in when they see you are down, they could be a good friend, or they may have just been waiting for the opportunity to sweep you off your feet and save the world. I have a lot of friends that swoop in when I need them, but I can always tell when someone is trying to take advantage of a situation. I guess it is intuition again and hard to explain. But they want to make your world perfect and be your savior. They will constantly be a shoulder to cry on and when the time is right they will pull you in. 4.Overly Reasonable When they seem perfect and want to be over reasonable about things, like you spending time with your friends, usually there is a hook later. Once you think that they are perfect and you are hooked, they will start cutting you off from the people who love you. It may be a slow process of one friend at a time or one place, like your favorite bar, at a time. Know who your real friends are before you start relying on a new person who says you shouldn't listen to them. Stay on your toes and be watchful of someone who slowly tells you that other people are taking advantage of you.I have a daughter that doesn't quit seem to get it when people tell her to pay attention to things. She doesn't seem to catch on when people try to tell her what other people might be doing to her. I have to sit down and give her a list and then point things out after they happen. That is not uncommon because she is still kind of young but I worry about what is going to happen when I am not there? Who is going to tell her that she is being manipulated? If I could just teach her to be on her toes and watch for these signs then maybe she will learn. Having a watchful eye and knowing what to look for helps, but some manipulators are very good and they know what you will be looking for. Also, some people who act like this may truly be good people and you don't want to let them go. How do you know which they are? You have to watch and trust your own judgment two things that are very hard to do when someone is flattering you and saving your world. 你和他们擦身而过,他们对你报以微笑,忽然之间你习惯了每天走那条路,只为了能再次见到那个微笑。慢慢地,他们走近了你,让你能够对他们有进一步的了解。他们对你打招呼让后你终于兴奋得拜倒在他们脚下。 这就是一个操纵者是如何开始的。他们经常会走进你的生活,读懂你,理解你的肢体语言、喜欢的、不喜欢的,甚至你的全部装。曾经有人告诉我一屋子人中,最聪明的那个是什么都不说的人,他们只是聆听、观察正在发生的一切。当我变成那个安静的人之后,我才知道他们并不仅仅是在听。我们分析你、了解你,捕捉你的每个瞬间直到你成为我们的目标。我们跟随你并且了解你所做的每一格动作,然后拿走我们想要的离开。 那你要怎样知道我们是谁呢?这里有一个并不简单的条目你可以参考。 1.态度 要想清楚你是否成为目标并不容易,但是你可以在人群中发现这个。许多时候当有人给你摆架子的时候你会发现,但是这个并不是我想谈的。我要谈的是他们怎样会有怎样的举止和态度,以至于不让你害怕并产生戒备心理。他们力求使自己的态度完美一边你会接近他们或者允许他们接近你。你是否还是看起来容易接近即使他们的举动和真实身份之间有明显的区别。相信自己的第一感觉,因为你的潜意识看到的比你了解得更多。竖起防备,小心不经意间陷入。 2.好得让人难以置信 想大家说得那样,太好就让人难以置信。他们是对的。是否他们和你有太多共同的地方,这样太狡猾了,他们大概已经深入地了解你所喜欢的事情,故而他们可以顺利地实现自己的计划,我们,也就是“他们”,是非常精通这些的。太过完美经常会出卖人,他们中的一些人在看到你的瞬间就能看懂你。 3.拯救世界 如果有人看到你倒了就冲过来,他们可以是一个好朋友,又或者他们他们只是在等候这个机会把你打倒,拯救世界。我与许多朋友,他们总是在我需要的时候出现,但是我经常会分辨出党有人是在利用这个条件。我想这就是直觉吧,难以解释。但是他们想让你的世界变得完美,成为你的救世主。在你想哭的时候,他们总是会给你一个肩膀,然后再合适的时候,把你拥入怀抱。 4.过度的合理 当他们看起来完美无缺并且想要让事情看起来无可挑剔,就像你和朋友相处一样,但是通常之后会有一个陷阱。一旦你发祥他们太过完美并且你上圈套时,他们就会把切断你和关心你的人的联系。It may be a slow process of one friend at a time or one place,像你最喜欢的酒吧,at a time.在你决定依靠一个陌生人who says you shouldn't listen to them的时候,先搞清楚谁是你真正的朋友。当有人告诉你别人是在利用你的时候,冷静下来并且认真观察他的言行。 我的女儿,她总是在别人告诉她留心一些事情的收获满不在乎。当别人试着告诉她有些人会对她做一些事情的时候,她看起来无法理解。我不得不静下来给她列一个清单,然后在事情发生之后给她指出来。这并不稀奇因为她毕竟还是个孩子。但是我担心如果我不在了会发生些什么?在她被控制的时候谁去告诉她?如果我告诉她冷静地观察这些讯息,也许她就会了解。一定要有一双洞悉的眼睛,知道向谁求助,但是有些非常专业的操作者他们知道你在寻找什么。而且,一些有这些做法的人,他们真的是好人,那你可不要让他走开。那你怎么知道他是好是坏呢?你就要认真地观察并且坚信自己的判断。但是当有人奉承你并且可以拯救你的时候,这就很难办到了。 /200809/47427。

We've all had to start conversations that we ded having – everything from asking for a raise to asking for a divorce to asking for help with the laundry. These strategies help the conversation go more smoothly -- at least, that's the hope.每个人都曾不得不进行另自己惧怕的谈话——如:要求加薪、提出离婚、请求帮助洗衣。下面的方法帮你让谈话更顺利,至少希望如此。1. Don't stall. Let's say you need to call an acquaintance whom you haven't seen in a few years to ask for a favor. Don't chat and chat, then casually mention the favor at the end. You're not going to fool him about why you called. It's better to say something like, "It's so great to talk to you. I really want to catch up and hear everything that's been going on for the last few years, but first, I have to tell you the reason I called." Otherwise, the person on the other end tends to feel wary and distracted.不要拖延。比如:你要打电话给一位认识的人,两人有些年没有见面了,你要让他帮忙。 不要聊个没完,到结束时才突然提出请帮忙的事。对于你打电话的原因,人家心知肚明。最好这样说:“和你聊天真不错。我很想聊聊最近几年的情况,听听发生的每件事,但首先我要告诉你我打电话的理由。” 否则容易让对方警惕和分心。2. Don't start off angry. If you have to make some sort of charge, of dishonesty or bad service or a screw-up, work yourself into a mild state of mind. Anger inspires anger; accusations inspire defensiveness. Explain the situation in a straightforward way. Joke around. Show that you're a reasonable person.不要怒气冲冲地开始谈话。如果你要对欺骗、差的务或一次办砸的事做出控诉,那么先让自己情绪缓和。愤怒会激发愤怒;指责会激发抵抗。直接了当地说明情况。开开玩笑。展现出自己是一个讲道理的人。3. This is obvious, but pick your moment. The Big Girl chooses to pester me with her pleas to get her ear pierced just before school, just before bed, or when I'm rifling in the refrigerator with a wolfish look. She couldn't pick worse times. Look for a moment of calm, lack of interruption, and physical comfort. Also, if the conversation will be particularly painful to the other person, choose circumstances that are the most comfortable for him or her, not for you. Sometimes, when you're ding saying something, you just want to blurt it out and get it over with -- but by waiting, you might get a better result. (See #8 on this, too.)即使是容易被理解的事情,要说也得选择时机。可我的大闺女总选择在上学前一刻、睡前或我正当带着豺狼般贪婪的面目洗劫冰箱时来纠缠我,恳求我允许她穿耳洞。她选择的时机简直是糟糕透顶。要找一个没有干扰、身体舒适、平静的时刻。而且,如果对话让另一方感到痛苦,那么选择对他/她而言(不是对你而言)最为舒适的环境。有时候,当你害怕说某件事,你只希望脱口而出,然后了事——可是等一会再说,你也许会获得更好的结果(参考第八点)。4. Think about why the subject is difficult for you. Do you hate to talk about money? Do you shrink from doing anything that smacks of self-promotion? Do you dislike confrontation? Are you afraid of someone? Are you concerned about damaging a relationship? One of the most helpful of my Twelve Commandments is "Identify the problem." If you examine why you're ding a particular conversation, you might be able to tackle it in a different way, or re-frame the issue in a way that's less upsetting.想一想为什么这话题难以启齿。你讨厌谈论钱吗?带有自荐意味的事情会让你退缩吗?你不喜欢交涉?你害怕某人?你担心破坏一段关系?在我“十二戒律”中最有帮助的一条是“辨认问题”。如果你弄清楚为何害怕某种对话,你也许能采取另一种方式来应对,或者可以用一个不愉快度较低的方式重构问题。5. Are you certain you need to discuss the difficult subject, at all? Often, you do. Sometimes, you don't. Will it really serve a purpose to have the conversation?你确信自己有必要去讨论这一困难话题吗?经常是的。但有时候却不是。就算进行了这个对话,你真能达到目的吗?6. Don't ruminate about worst-case scenarios. It's tempting to imagine every possible way a conversation could go – each worse than the last. But this usually isn't helpful. I have a strong tendency to do this, and never once in my experience has the conversation unfolded with any resemblance to what I imagined. It sometimes goes just as poorly as I'd feared, but never in a way that I'd predicted. So unless you're doing constructive strategizing, don't allow yourself to indulge in negative fantasies.不要反复考虑最坏的情况。人们总是忍不住设想谈话的各种情形,这些情形一个比一个糟。但是通常这一点用也没有。我也有强烈的倾向去做这些设想,但据我经验来看,实际的对话和我想象中的从来不一样。有时候,它如同我原来害怕的那么糟糕,可绝不是我预测中的那种情形。所以,除非你在做建设性的规划,否则别让自己沉溺于消极幻想当中。7. In direct conflict with the above tip -- it can nevertheless be useful to ask yourself, "What's the very worst that could happen?" Someone could tell you "No," or laugh in your face, or cry, or yell, or talk about you behind your back. Are these outcomes really so dful? Often, bluntly considering the worst-case scenario is actually reassuring. But do this in a focused, realistic, limited way. Don't spend hours playing out horrible scenes in your mind.和前面一条直接矛盾的是——问问自己:“最坏可能发生的是什么?”这还是有用的。有的人会对你说“不”,或当着你的面大笑、哭、大叫,或背后指点。这些结果真的那么令人恐惧吗?往往考虑出最糟糕的情况反倒使你放心。但是,在问自己这个问题时要集中注意力,要现实,有限度。不要花长时间地在脑子里播放恐怖的画面。8. Can it wait? If you're reacting to something that has just happened, can you postpone the confrontation for a day or two? You might well feel calmer after some time has passed, and even if you still need to have the conversation, you might be able to broach it more productively.能等等再说吗?如果你正处于对刚发生的事情产生的反应中,你能把这次交涉推迟一、两天吗?也许等上一段时间后你会感觉更加镇定些,即便你还需要进行那次谈话,这么做也许能让你更有成效。9. Use notes. When you're emotionally overwrought, it can be hard to remember exactly what was said. If your boss made criticisms of your work, what EXACTLY did he or she say? If you're at the doctor's office, what EXACTLY did the doctor say? In some cases, like going to the doctor, you may even want to bring another person with you to help process information. You might also want to bring notes to have a list of the points to cover. You might be so eager to end the conversation that you'd rush out of the room too soon, or you might forget everything you wanted to say or ask in the heat of the conversation.做记录。在情绪过度劳累时,要准确地记住说过的话往往会很难。如果你的老板批评了你的工作,他/她到底对你说了什么?如果你在医生办公室,医生确切地对你说了什么?有些时候,例如看大夫,你也许会希望有一个人陪你去,以帮助消化信息。也许你还希望带上笔记本,列出谈话要点。在一次激烈的谈话种,你可能会很渴望结束谈话,从而会过早地冲出房间,结果忘记了本来要说的、要问的。10. Write a note instead of having a conversation. When writing, you can pick your words exactly, and by communicating that way, you allow the other person to react privately, with time for reflection. Or you can write a note alerting the person to the fact that a painful conversation is necessary.用留言代替交谈。在书写时,你能准确地选择词语,而且以这个方式交流,你能让别人有考虑的时间来私底下做出反应。还能写留言来警告某人,进行一次痛苦的对话必不可少。11. It sounds simplistic, but if you know you're going to broach a difficult subject on a particular day, get plenty of sleep and exercise in the period before. Feeling energetic, well-rested, and calm in body will put you in better spirits.这一条听上去太简单了。如果你知道某一天你将提出困难的话题,那么之前你需要充分睡眠和锻炼。拥有充沛的精力、良好的休息还有镇定的身体会让你心情愉快。Obviously, the tips aren't universally applicable. You wouldn't take notes when confronting your teenager, and you wouldn't bring your spouse to your performance review. But by thinking constructively about how to broach a difficult subject, you might make it less painful and more productive, for everyone.显然,以上建议并不是所有情况下都通用。面对自己十来岁的孩子时,你可不会做笔记。你也不会带配偶去参加面试。但是,通过建设性地去考虑如何提出一个困难话题,你也许为每个人减少了谈话的痛苦,增加了谈话的成果。 /200902/62002。

1. Most of it doesn't matter. So much of what I got excited about, anxious about, or wasted my time and energy on, turned out not to matter. There are only a few things that truly count for a happy life. I wish I had known to concentrate on those and ignore the rest. 拥有一颗平常心。太多我曾经为其兴奋,为其焦虑,亦或是浪费了我时间以及精力的事情到最后却被明是无关紧要的。它们只是幸福生活里极其微小的一部分。我多么希望早点知道这些,以便能把精力都投入到这些关乎幸福的事,而不是其他。2. The greatest source of misery and hatred in this world is clinging to past hurts. 这个世界上痛苦与仇恨最大源泉是对过去的执迷。 /201108/151587。

1. Panzanella Salad  This delicious salad uses tons of summer veggies and b to create a refreshing summer salad perfect for a picnic!  面包沙拉  这种美味只是用一些夏季青菜和面包切成块就可以做成的清新爽口的沙拉,特别适合郊游野餐时食用。 /201007/108409。

女孩子都比较八卦,有的呢就嘴巴特别辣,辣子看到不顺心的男孩子都喜欢奚落两句,当然不是恶意的,纯粹一下而已。 第一名:白羊座。No.1 Aries /200911/89126。

相信大家对Chinglish早已经见怪不怪了,就连上世纪30年代逐字翻译的中式英语Long time no see(很久不见),也大张旗鼓地进入了英语标准词组的“领地”。当然这不过属于“中式逐字翻译原创版”,老外们看后莞尔一笑也就过去了。但有些情况则不同,已有的英文词句的表意往往并非是单词的真正意思,如果一不留神就会酿成“英语尴尬”,闹笑话不说,表错了意有时还会带来不少误会。就像一位友在加拿大的亲身经历——他刚到加拿大的时候看到很多大厦门口都有smoke free的标志,因此由衷地感叹道:“加拿大就是好,抽烟都免费。”  你犯过类似的错误吗?不管有没有,都千万不要小看这些容易造成误会的“危险词句”——1、成语类pull one's leg 开玩笑(不是“拉后腿”)in one's birthday suit 赤身裸体(不是“穿着生日礼”)eat one's words 收回前言(不是“吃话”)an apple of love 西红柿(不是“爱情之果”)handwriting on the wall 不祥之兆(不是“大字报”)bring down the house 得全场喝(不是“推倒房子”)have a fit 勃然大怒(不是“试穿”)think a great deal of oneself 高看或看重自己(不是“为自己想得很多”)pull up one's socks 鼓起勇气(不是“提上袜子”) /200910/87946。


I love you because you bring the best out of me.我爱你,因你让我展现出最美好的那部分。Everytime I look at you, my heart misses a beat.每次看着你,我的心都会漏跳一拍。You're the one who holds the key to my heart.你是那个开启我心灵的人。Love is, what you mean to me - and you mean everything.爱是,你在我心中的分量——而你,就是一切。Your love has helped me to rediscover myself.你的爱让我重新发现了我自己。Just being with you feels like I can defy the whole world.仅仅和你在你一起的感觉可以让我放弃全世界。Darling, you are my theme for a dream.亲爱的,你是我的梦中情人。(你是我梦的主题)You have taught me the true meaning of love.你教会了我爱的真谛。Grow old along with me, the best is yet to be.和我一起慢慢变老,这将是最好的事。Loving you makes the my ride of life worthwhile.爱你,让我的生命之旅有意义。 /200811/56951。

I just remember that my dreams when I was younger appear to be more vivid than what they are now. Upon reaching adulthood, my dreams started to wane and at best I could not recall any dream upon waking up.According to experts, in a typical lifespan, humans spend a total of six years dreaming. There is yet no consensus or established explanation why we dream. That is why, there are theories that try to explain this phenomenon.I gathered some of these theories and came up with eight explanations why we dream:Adler's Theory. Dreams were a way of addressing our insecurities. In a dream we can safely face things that would otherwise scare us. We can try out strategies for overcoming our shortcomings or simply compensate for them via wish-fulfillment.Freud's Theory. Freud believes that we dream mainly because we want to fulfill our wishes. In other words, we dream mainly to fulfill our desires.Jung's Theory. He suggested that dreams may compensate for one-sided attitudes held in waking consciousness.Hartmann's Theory. Dreams, he said, function like psychotherapy. What someone cannot do during waking life, he tries to fulfill in his dreams.Griffen's Theory. Dreams provide a venue to satisfy an emotional expectation. This lowers stress on the dreamer.Hobson and McCarley's Theory. Dreams were simply the result of random electrical brain impulses that pulled imagery from traces of experience. Our brain tries to make sense of what these imageries mean and our mind creates stories out of it.Hall's Theory. He argued that a dream was simply a thought or sequence of thoughts. Dream images are the dreamer's own personal construct.Cayce Theory. More inclined on the spiritual explanations, he claimed that through dreaming, people are given access to their spirit. Well, these dream theories appear to point out that dreaming is a personal thing. Each one has a unique dream not dreamt by anybody else. And I would suggest that the best explanation to our dreams should come from ourselves.Besides, we cannot dwell on our dreams. We have to face our everyday realities. If you dream good, enjoy it. If not, wake up! 我只是记得我年轻时候做的梦比我现在做的梦记得清楚得多。成年以后,我的梦开始减少了而且我醒来后记不起任何东西。根据专家所言,典型的一个人的一生要花一共六小时来做梦。关于为什么我们会做梦至今还没有达成共识或者既定的解释。这就是为什么,有如此多的理论试着来解释这一现象。我摘录了这些理论中的一部分列举了我们为什么做梦的八个解释。1. 阿德勒的理论。梦是一种消除我们的不安全感的方式。在梦中我们能够安然地面对在现实生活中会令我们害怕的事情。我们能够通过如愿以偿的方式尝试种种策略来战胜我们的弱点或者只是简单地对它们进行补偿。2. 弗洛伊德的理论。弗洛伊德认为我们做梦主要是因为我们想要实现我们的愿望。换句话 说,我们做梦主要是为了满足自己的欲望。3. 荣格的理论。他的观点是梦是对清醒意识的片面态度的一种补偿。4. 哈特曼的理论。他说,梦的功能类似于心理疗法。在现实生活中不能做的事情,他会在梦境中试着实现。5. 格里芬的理论。梦提供了一个满足情感期待的地方。这给做梦的人缓解了压力。6. 霍布森和麦卡利的理论。梦仅仅是随机发放的大脑电信号把过往的经历变成意象。我们的大脑试着弄清楚这些意象的含义和我们创造的故事。7. 霍尔的理论。他认为梦仅仅是一种想法或一系列的想法。梦的意象是做梦者自己的创造。8. 凯西的理论。他认为更多的倾向于精神上的解释,他声称通过做梦,人们得到通向他们心灵的途径。这些梦的理论指出梦是一件个人的事。每个人都有其它人没有的自己独一无二的梦。我认为关于我们的梦最好的解释来自我们自己。此外,我们不能停留在我们的梦境中。我们不得不面对生活现实,如果你做了个美梦,好好享受,如果你做了个噩梦,那么赶紧醒来吧! /200804/35922。